I have been having a personal conflict with my husband lately. We want to have another child but disagree on the timing. He thinks that we should wait until I finish school. I want to go ahead now due to my age, risk to the child, and the time. I would be done with my schooling by the time the child came. It would be in the summer which would be better work wise too. One solution would be to try to compromise. We could come to an agreement together about the best time. We might be able to meet somewhere in the middle of both our time frames. The second solution would be to talk together about our needs. Maybe writing the needs and viewpoint down of each other would some how help us come up with a solution.
Does anyone have any solutions or suggestions that might help with this communication issue? We are not getting any where fast. We are both firm on our viewpoints.
Crystal having a baby and going to school can possibly take a toll on you. I understand how you feel when you talk about age and risk but ask yourself whether you could wait until you finish school. I think trying to have a baby now while in school can too bring about some stress and risks. I can understand how both of you feel. I think it is good that you sit down and talk and compromise come up with a solution that would benefit you both. You both can also get a piece of paper and write down individually the pro's and con's of having a baby now or waiting until later. That may help. Whatever you decide don't let the conflict harm your relationship. I hope this helps.
ReplyDeleteCrystal, This is a struggle. I hope that continued discussion will help you reach a consensus. As long as both partners are firm on their decision you will be at an impasses. Someone will have to bend, I hope you can compromise.
ReplyDeleteCrystal, I think that you pretty much answered your own question when you said you guys will try to meet somewhere in the middle. You both must be willing to compromise and come up with the resolution that will be best for you both. I would probably sit down together and weigh out the pros and cons on the timing of the baby and try to come up with a compromise around them. Good Luck ! Deon
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